"February 2020 I found myself in an unthinkable place, my son had passed away following a 4 year struggle with alcohol dependency.
I had turned to RISE Rehab to ask if they could sign post me to someone who could provide bereavement support, someone who also had an understanding of addiction. That’s how Corinne Yeadon entered my life.
Since the first days of my desperation for answers, Corinne has walked me through my grief.
After our first meeting, via facetime in covid restricted times, I felt safe to share my story.
It was a relief to talk to someone who knew exactly what I was facing.
I had been floundering for the past 4 years to understand what fuelled my son’s choices and behaviours.
Corinne has given me insight, so that I can slowly begin to understand what it means to be dependent on alcohol.
This understanding is helping me to cope with my feelings of anger, fear and guilt.
Corinne has provided me with numerous coping tools. These have always come as a suggestion to support our conversations. I have found them a valuable resource to refer to on many a dark day.
When I get low, I will read through the Stages of Grief. This reminds me that my feelings are normal and I am not ‘losing it! ‘
I also think about a new term, to Self Soothe. We have discussed this on numerous occasions and I now give myself permission to do so .Thank you.
Once I returned to work, I developed a worry of what people would say to me and how I would be able to respond. Again, Corinne provided me with tools to cope.
I still rehearse what I will say and will not allow myself to waver.
Throughout all of our meetings, Corinne has included my other family members in our chats. This has been vital to creating a feeling of family centred support.
Corinne has never made me feel that we are in a counsellor / client scenario.
It is too comfortable for that, which is lovely for me and I am grateful.
With her wealth of knowledge, empathy, plain reasoning and not forgetting her brilliant sense of humour, she continues to make my journey more bearable.
I can never re pay Corinne and Being Better, for their continued kindness.
It takes special people to do a job as complex as yours……you are very special."
TA, St Helens
"Well I don’t know where to start to be honest ..... I first spoke Corinne in May 2020 when my son was accepted into a rehab. My son has struggled quite a few years with alcohol and substance misuse.
As soon as Corinne rang me I just knew she got me .. never judged me ...
I was completely honest and open for the first time how I really felt .. it’s so hard when you’ve got this constant guilt about how your son has turned out ...
Corinne has always been so reassuring told me it was ok to feel like that ..
that am normal .. I think parents of children who have addictions are never advised how to handle them .. You tend to be the enabler because you get scared to challenge them so you agree for a quiet life .
This experience has been one of the most helpful things for me .
It’s ok to feel they way I was feeling .. the guilt I felt.
I was constantly questioning myself for why does he do this to me .. I didn’t understand addiction ..
He hated himself not me he just took it out on me .. it’s hard not to take things personally ... but they don’t mean it. Corinne helped me so much to understand.
Every time we got off the phone I felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulders .. although our conversations were so deep and tearful on most occasions I got off the phone and thought yep i can do this .. felt stronger
And not a bad mother ..
it’s learned me to set my own boundaries because I matter too .. not to be scared to say what I mean ..
Corinne suggested different ways of putting things to him .. it’s helped me not be so judgemental with him ..
This therapy has been a massive impact on my own mental health I feel so strong when I’ve spoken to her .. I’ve never met Corinne in person but feel like she’s a friend.
It’s good because she will also suggest a different approach.. helps understand what my son is feeling and I think as parents no matter how old our children get we feel responsible for them ...
This therapy has helped me let go of some of the guilt I feel and learned me he’s responsible for his own decisions.. How to be there for him but not take responsibility or control.. let him deal with his own decisions and face the consequences of his actions.
Am still trying to practice this behaviour and I still do feel guilt but I now know how to manage it better."
"I’ve always been a little reluctant to seek professional help in this area. It’s odd, if I felt sick I’d happily go to the doctor, if I felt it necessary. However the past year for me (as for many) has been life changing; and although we couldn’t meet face to face, my sessions with Corinne seem to have happened at the perfect moment. She’s helped me navigate big changes in my life and many extremely testing times, always being there as an ear and an advisor and friend. Professional yet very friendly, with a very gentle manner. I lovingly say you’re in safe hands with Corinne. Namaste and thank you x"
“Last August we were referred to Corinne to help us try and understand what was happening to us both as a couple and on an individual basis related to my daughter’s alcohol addiction and associated problems. We had both unknowingly come to, or at least very close to the end of our tether and didn’t know which way to turn or what to do for the best. After speaking with Corinne for as little as ten minutes all the emotion came to the surface. The relief of being able to speak to someone who understood what we were going through and also to be told its okay to feel angry, sad in fact to embrace the whole range of emotions and not feel guilty. Corinne started the process of empowerment (our empowerment) she helped us to understand that saying no is not wrong, that being selfish and thinking of ourselves is not wrong. Corinne has been one of the best listeners and at the same time a person who gives great advice and with that coping mechanisms. She has a very calm persona allows you talk openly as well as telling you that you are the forgotten people most affected by a loved one who is an alcoholic.
As the weeks passed and we continued to meet with Corinne it seemed the fog was slowly lifting, what Corinne did for both myself and my partner was to show us that underneath the battered exterior was a strength we thought we might never feel again. Knowing you’re not responsible for your grown daughter’s behaviour and accepting it are very different things. Over the months we’ve gotten stronger at setting the boundaries and not enabling the same patterns of emotional dependency, it’s been hard to start with but the difference has been incredible. We’re not always weary of the unknown number, or jumping to assume a call or text from my daughter is a cry for help or a crisis.
The relationship we now have with my daughter is like someone you haven’t seen for a long time. Almost like renewing a friendship, but with a much closer bond. In essence, starting again. We’re still finding our way with it, but we’re cautiously optimistic. Corinne has helped us to have the tools and coping strategies in place if there is a relapse, and we know we don’t have to rescue her from them.
It is difficult to put into words how much Corinne helped us. To sum up she has extended a hand and walked with us down a very dark path and without wishing sound too dramatic lead us to a place where we feel in control and so much stronger.
Thank you to the RISE Rehab for such a fantastic opportunity, we had been on our own in this for two years and this was the first time we felt like someone was reaching out to help us. On a more personal note, thank you so much Corinne and it has been a pleasure to have met you, and thank you for the very apt observation that more beautiful things can be created from something that was once broken. You helped reignited my passion for creating art, the first piece I did is in your hands.”
C & G, Liverpool
"I was feeling sad and confused and very stuck in a bad situation when I first met Corinne. Her warmth, unconditional positive regard and acceptance made it possible for me to open up, reflect in a focused and productive way, and make the right decisions about my future. Corinne has been there with me every step of the way, and even now, after I have made positive changes, she is still there when I need her to provide support and insight. In particular, she has helped me learn to enjoy my successes and to feel comfortable with the happiness and peace I feel in my new situation. Corinne is solution-focused, pragmatic, and extremely smart, and has an ability to think outside the box which I found very very helpful. Although we worked on relationship issues together, I believe Corinne has the flexibility and wisdom to be highly effective with a variety of clients with a variety of issues. She is simply the best."
Anon, North Yorkshire
"Corinne has been an amazing person for me to talk to whilst guiding me, recognising certain aspects of my behaviour/thoughts that I wouldn’t have done on my own.
I have always stepped out feeling a weight lifted off my shoulders and a release from speaking to her.
Corinne has supported me in overcoming challenges and having an impact towards my thinking/self-talk in a really positive manner.
I have recommended Being Better services to friends, family and I would to anyone!"
HS, North Yorkshire
"Thank you for continuing to support my son. I really wish you could see him in person, because he looks absolutely amazing!!!
He has put weight in the right places, he walks and cycles to keep fit. He calls up to see us or makes phone contact everyday and we feel like we have our wonderful son back. He chats and laughs and reminisces with us about his happy childhood. He now makes me cry with happiness."
Concerned Other, Skipton
"It is impossible to express fully enough just how integral Corinne has been to my journey through one of the most challenging times of my life.When my default position was to believe in the negatives Corrine enabled me to identify my inner strengths whilst always treating me with positive regard.
To be able to talk honestly and openly with Corinne about the situation I found myself in diluted the power of the negative and gave me hope for the future
I will always think of Corinne as a major positive influence as I move on into the future and a new life."
Anon, North Yorkshire